Having Confidence To Be Yourself.

Having Confidence To Be Yourself.

Hello my lovelies! I hope you had a good week! This week has been super busy as usual, but I did manage to have a little time to see my sister, niece and nephew! And with seeing them, my sister brought me some funky new earrings that I absolutely adore. Which leads me to today’s post, having confidence to be yourself, no matter what others think.

Lucy and Yaks Dungarees

So, this week I decided to talk to you about confidence. Specifically in having confidence in being yourself regardless of other people’s opinions.

For me, I can remember being tiny and having absolutely zero self-esteem issues and having complete confidence in myself and giving no fucks. And I can also remember when I began giving all of the fucks to what people thought about me and my appearance.

Sadly that day came in primary school when all of the year 6 girls (myself included) got to wear their Brownie uniforms to school. I had no care in the world about how I looked, I was just happy I got to wear something other than my usual uniform; and then came a comment from one of the kids in my class, it was something along the lines of: “why are you wearing those pants? You look stupid”.

And poof. Insecurities as far as the eyes could see.

Several years of bullying throughout school later, all I wanted was to fit in. And then a few years working in two different jobs types, and spending some time working on myself away from negative people.

dungarees balloon sleeve top

As time went on, my confidence has grown quite a lot, and I think that is partly due to ‘The Weight Of My Worlds’! I say partly but I think that’s actually a huge factor for me.

Something just clicked in me one day and I decided that from then on I was going to be completely apologetically myself. Regardless of what other people think, because someone who’s worth spending your time with will only lift you up and not put you down.

My tips for building confidence in yourself are:

  1. Looking at yourself in the mirror, as you are, without makeup, without fancy clothes, just as you are. Get used to you and your appearance.
  2. Don’t be afraid to be weird when you’re by yourself, be as weird as you want to be by yourself so much so that when you’re with your loved ones you start being yourself more because you’re more comfortable with yourself.
  3. Fake it til you make it! I love this phrase because it’s something that I’ve done for a long time and it definitely helped me in my early days trying to build my confidence. It’s also a good one for anxiety!
  4. Wear whatever you want to. Wanna wear a skirt? Wear a skirt. Wanna wear a suit? Wear a suit. Wanna wear crazy patterns. Wear em. Wear what makes you happy!
  5. Do a complete detox. Anything that doesn’t make you feel good, get rid! Social media was a big one for me, so I unfollowed all of the accounts that made me feel bad about myself and followed loads of positive ones that made me feel good.

So, what’re some things that I do now that I wouldn’t before?

Well, for a start, I now don’t care about what people think of my appearance or personality anymore; because I am me and guess what? I’m pretty great as I am.

How else do I know I’m more confident than before? Well, I would never pose or do photoshoots where other people could see me, and now I am not afraid to strike a pose in public!

Gumball earrings

Another thing that’s changed is that I’m not afraid to wear whatever wacky, weird and quirky things I want. At the moment I’m really into crazy shoes and jewellery! My sister gave me these awesome gumball machine earrings that I can’t get enough of!

So, that’s a bit about how my confidence has gone through ups and downs and ups again and how I have improved my confidence! Have you got any tips and tricks that make you feel more confident? Let me know in the comments!

And remember, you are perfect just as you are. Be apologetically yourself because you’re incredible! Be bright, be bold, be you!

Have a great weekend my lovelies!

Love,

Victoria Blog Signature
Confidence In Yourself pin
I Hate My Belly, So I Got My Belly Button Pierced.

I Hate My Belly, So I Got My Belly Button Pierced.

Hello my lovelies!! It’s Saturday again, and you know what that means… blog post! And this week I’m talking about something I never thought I’d do. As an experiment I decided to get my belly button pierced in order to learn to love my stomach.Belly button

I’ve wouldn’t say I’ve had a love-hate relationship with my stomach. It’s pretty much always been more of a hate-hate relationship. And it wasn’t until recently, when I was having a chat with my mum about my relationship with my body image that she told me about how having her belly button pierced years ago that it’s helped her to love her stomach.

It’s funny to me to think that my mum has issues with her stomach, because she looks incredible, and I can’t see any flaws with her stomach, she’s had 4 kids and still looks amazing!! She told me that when she got her belly button pierced, it made her focus go to the piercing, and not all of the little things she thought were flaws. And voila, she now doesn’t hate her stomach!

Also, I would just like to add in here, you haven’t got to have a flat stomach to have a naval piercing that looks great. They look great on anyone, especially if you have confidence! So don’t think that you shouldn’t get a piercing because you haven’t necessarily seen a photo anyone of someone with your body type with one, because that’s what I thought. And guess what? I was wrong!

So.. After umming and ahhing over whether or not I like belly button piercings and whether or not I would look good with one (I don’t know why I tried to work out if it would look good on me.. as someone who doesn’t like her belly, in my mind, of course I wouldn’t suit it!); I decided that I should just do it!

After all, what’s the worst that could happen? I could hate my stomach still, or I could love it! Lucky for me, it was the latter.

One thing I will say is that if you do decide to go and get a piercing or any kind of body modification, please do your research! I personally watched the video below and spoke to lots of people who had it done and checked out reviews from tattoo and piercing shops. Once I’d done all of that, I felt a lot better about getting pierced because I knew what I was getting myself into!

Pre-warning: if you’re a little squeamish, skip past the video!

It’s been a week now since I got my stomach pierced and safe to say, I absolutely LOVE it! And for those out there wondering if it hurt, I won’t lie, it did; but it only hurt for the few seconds it was being done and after that I didn’t feel any pain.

Two things I would recommend if you ever get a naval piercing is to one – make sure you’re cleaning it well (I used rock salt water twice a day) and to wear loose clothes around your stomach or wear crop tops whilst it’s healing! For me this meant for the past week I’ve been living in leggings and oversized tops during the work day and then crop tops when I’m home; which I’m not mad at because I love oversized stuff!

So, here’s what my belly looks like now! And as you can see from my face in these, I feel great about my stomach now and am loving my body a lot more than before!!

It’ll be a few more weeks until I can change the jewellery, but I’ll probably keep it in a lot longer before I change it to be safe! But I am looking forward to some warmer weather so I can go out in more crop tops and not freeze! Here’s some new crop tops I bought recently:

Since having my piercing I have found a new love for crop tops, as I am now not worried about my stomach showing and having to constantly pull my top down! I understand that some people might say that I should just accept and love my stomach the way it is, without a piercing, but I just needed that little extra something to give me a hand. And that’s okay.

Moral of the story, love your body, we’re all on our own journey’s to loving ourselves and being positive about our bodies is a great step. All of those little things that you think are flaws, really aren’t! They are just part of how your body is telling your life story and that’s a beautiful thing.

Well, that’s it from me for today! Have you got any piercings? What about your belly button? Or has this made you think about getting yours done? Let me know in the comments, I always love interacting with you! Have a great week lovelies!!

Love,

Victoria Blog Signature